Money and sex are two very common and complex issues raised in couple’s counselling.
Money is a tangible measure of a person’s ability to be in control of one’s life and get what he/she wants. In our culture, financial competence is often a measure of masculine competence. When a man is not able to contribute at least equally to his home, this is a turn off to women. The problem is not the lack of money itself, but the lack of confident male energy, purpose and direction.
If the woman is carrying the masculine energy in the relationship, she loses respect for her partner. The man, feeling criticized for his money making ability, feels insulted. And so, talking about it makes him angry.
One of the goals of the couple counselling, in this situation, becomes growing husbands into men and wives into women. This allows for more whole people in healthier relationships.