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Hi, I'm Linda Samson.

Registered Psychotherapist, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist

354785linda textI help people in many areas of therapy
Individual and marriage counselling, grief and depression, stress and career changes, addictions and anxiety, self esteem and assertiveness and more. I help people lead more satisfying lives.

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Come and feel the comfort and quiet of my office overlooking a hundred year old forest - a sanctuary, nestled in among 13 acres of woods, gardens and ponds - designed to assure privacy, peace and recovery.

Linda Samson, Registered marriage and family therapist, GeorgetownCan you relate to these stories?
Fighting over money, fading desire, infidelity, grief, anxiety, loneliness or career changes are experience by many. I created my blog to share with you how you can overcome the troubles life brings your way.

Linda Samson, Registered marriage and family therapist, GeorgetownMore about Linda
I have a MSc in Family Studies from Guelph University. I am a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. I am also a registered psychotherapist with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario. I have been doing this work for over 30 years.

All he wants is sex

Ask any long-term couple about their sex life and what I often get is silence. We don’t talk about sex honestly.
When I ask women, they tell me that sex for them is a kind of spiritual experience. They tell me their vulvas are connected to their hearts. Sex for sport doesn’t appeal to them.

Men, on the other hand, do not necessarily see a connection between their penis and heart. They usually learn about sex while masturbating as a teenager. Sex is something that involves a penis. Love happens in one’s heart. They tell me they can easily enjoy one without the other.

For men, sexual pleasure is a relief from stress. Women, on the other hand, long to be fulfilled by love during sex. It takes quite an effort for a man to learn to keep his heart open during sex. Many men are not even aware that they are disconnected in the first place.

Women need to invite men to move more into their bodies. Yoga might help facilitate this. Dancing would also work. Once he is in his body, a woman can try inviting him into his heart with her heart.

This takes courage, vulnerability and compassion. A woman who is tired and who doesn’t feel cherished by her husband rarely finds the energy to even attempt this.

Talking from this place of vulnerability is often what leads to healing.